When in courtship, a man will not likely married a woman until he have introduced same and obtained the approval of the most important woman in his life, as at that point in time. This “most important” female can be his mother, his aunt, his step mom, his big or little sister, it can even be his sugar Mommy, especially if he’s an unbeliever. The bottom line is that, there is always a very important woman occupying the position you are about taking, though not necessarily in some sexual capacity but all the same in some very emotional attached manner.

Your job as a woman and a lover is to first identify that woman. Pray about her and prayerfully identify the kind of hold this very “respectful woman” is having on your man-to-be. Prayer can help you get your space and get it well but prayer alone without adequate knowledge of what you are dealing with wont help much.Take for example, if the hold is just emotional, that can be very strong but can be penetrated and you can create your own niche by getting close to the special woman, prayerfully get her favour and try do exact things she used to do that captivate your man, don’t try to outdo her at the beginning, she will read through your lines and outsmart you. Take your time learn from her, soon she will willingly allow you to take over, so long his special boy is happy. Most mothers-in-law fall to this category.

The second is, if the hold or bond between them is spiritual. My sister if you don’t know how to fight spiritual battle please run. Run as fast as your legs can go. She will always have more steps ahead of you. I can bet you, you will never enjoy that man , even if he married you. His remote control is spiritual and the owner won’t let go unless you can match her battle for battle in the spirit. Here, no be matter of love, if you are not spiritual no try am. Pastors can’t even help you much, if you yourself is spiritually ignorant of the battles you faced. Some mothers in law, aunties and ex lovers that refuses to let go are in this category.

The third I have briefly mentioned, lovers that won’t give up easily, especially sugar Mommy. They can be terrible. I pray no one reading this fall in love with a man who is in the hand of a devilishly possessive rich sugar Mommy. They will give the “wife” everything money can buy but they won’t give you the man, because he’s there personal possession. Prayer can help if you are already married but the best antidote is never to even marry their tomboy in the first place. They will never really share him with you. She’s the real wife, you are their house girl. If you stay in your lane, as the house girl, you wont have much trouble, but if you want to claim wifey roles, your battles may be life long unless God have mercy on you.

Never assumed that special woman is truly his cousin, aunty etc take time to find out. They like the category before them knows all the false prophets in town, they will control you and control him. If you can’t fight them, avoid marrying their toys, even if you are in love with them.