By OLUMOFIN Kehinde Benjamin

Love marriage (marriage in which partners find themselves by themselves) are more common and in the majority than arranged marriage (marriage in which partners are introduced to each other by a third party, usually like a middle man).

But in real life experience, both have been known to succeed or otherwise. Once married, how people came together to form a home and begin a family does not matter much, as much as the desire to succeed and the love that binds the two lovers. The success or otherwise of a marriage, love or arranged, depends on the two people involved and how much of God and third persons they allowed in their union.

There is nothing absolutely wrong with arranged marriage, many Bible marriages where arranged by families, as long as parties involved are giving opportunity or are not denied the power to investigate, aligne and agree (including the right to disagree, before the union is formally established. No one should be coarse into any union, especially, if parties involved on both sides are believers.

Before God, there is no different between love marriage and arranged marriage, as long as a marital union is established on His principles and love, He is involved from start to finish.

Many people actually think Arranged Marriage is bad and unscriptural.

What is bad is not giving the people involved, especially the woman, the right to agree or disagree with the options being presented. Everyone should have a say in a choice of a life partner, according to their beliefs and personal convictions.

Same is also true for Love Marriage. The final decision to say yes or no, should never be taken from either of the two most important persons involved, the man and the wife to be.

I will like to add this, a warning though, if you are in any way involved in Arranged Marriage, please don’t go through the process all alone without the help and advice of experience and matured Christian adult and or counselors, no matter how “juicy” and promising the package being presented to you is.

Things sometimes are not the same, down the line, as they look at the beginning.

All marriage processes require unbiased guidance and help.